Sunday, September 27, 2009

update on the weddin plannin

what's on today's blog menu? stressin with a side of stress! i can remember a couple specific details about my summer semester 2007. i was an RA this semester at lamprecht hall. i was able to work (aka play) with three of my dearest friends: jenn, lindsaywitt, and brandi jo. most of the memories i hold of that semester are happy times (we'll skip the long gray spot in there from drama, drama, and more drama because that's not the reason for this blog!!) however, for some reason there has been a memory of mine that i had long since forgotten about - that has since reappeared!

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i can remember sitting in the lamprecht hall office with my head resident jenn. we were talking about extremely important things i'm sure. things like diet pepsi tasting better than diet coke, the annoying maker-outer couples, and the obnoxious heat. however, those are not the memories i'm recalling with perfect clarity. i am remembering when my dear friend brandi jo came walking heavily into the office, backpack on, hair done, and ready for class looking stressed and to her patience end. i remember jenn and i turning to look at her as she said, "somebody told me that if you can get through the engagement and wedding planning, you and your fiance can get through anything. is this true??" honestly, i wondered what the big deal was! i wondered what in the heck can be that hard about plannin a party? the most important part of planning is done right? temple preparedness and appointments? i didn't think much more about that statement other than she's got to be a little bit crazy.. and needed a diet pepsi. pronto speed. HOWEVER, here i am two years later remembering her stressed out face and voice as if she just walked into the office a couple of minutes ago.
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i know it is ridiculous for me to complain. everyone has been there or will be there at some point in their lives. tom is being absolutely amazingly and perfectly supportive and as helpful as he can be while living an hour and 40 minutes away. i have been offered help from my amazing mom, sisters, cousins, aunts, future mother in law, sisters in law, and friends. i thank you all for that! it's looking at the reception as a whole that makes my eyes want to roll back and sleep until it's december 17th and my tom is home! things i'm thinking about daily: budget, cake, decorations, color schemes, guest list, tables, set up, take down, lighting, flowers, dress, hair, make up, shoes, veil, his ring, videographer, slide show, engagement pictures, engagement outfits, centerpieces, table clothes, invitations, DJ, food, who will make the food, dessert, candy, candles, life-sized kevin picture, marriage certificate, and transportation. it is a TON to think about - especially while working full time and having to meet sales goals. (which by the way.. brag moment for me.. i am at the top of the teller list at my store for my sales, which translates into i am ranked 22 out of 255 tellers in my region, have only been with the bank for a little bit over a year ... aka, i rock.) so i am a busy little face!!


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most importantly is the temple is already booked for tom and i. we did that first thing! luckily, oh so luckily for me my mama is going to be my photographer. why? because i think she's the best and she thinks shes the best, she'll be free to hire, she'll get the shots i want, and she has to go to the temple anyway so i don't have to bribe her to go. she'll also be taking our engagement pictures and then my bestie 79 melly told me she'd design my invitations so that's freakin rockin too! my dress will be decided on and in my possession by this coming thursday, my cousin christy is doing my cake cause she's m-a-zing, and cortney is picking out the "bridesmaids" dresses. i really am in better shape when i really start writing down all of the things that i don't have to worry about anymore.
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i am determined to enjoy whatever part of life i'm apart of. i have realized that i have a habit of wishing away time. when i was 14 i couldn't wait til i was 16 and could finally drive. once i was 16 i couldn't wait to be graduated high school. once out of high school and into college i couldn't wait til fall semester when i got to come home. once i was home i couldn't wait to go back to school. once back in school i couldn't wait to graduate and have a full time job. now i look back to when i was 14 and wonder what in the world the big rush was all about! the things i thought were so important then -- well honestly i don't even remember what they were! i don't want to look back once tom and i have been married for 10 years and we have babies and work, bills and stress and wish that we were simply engaged and back to planning and dreaming about the rest of our lives. i truly want to enjoy this time that i have to get to know him, to talk wedding and reception plans with him. i am counting down the days until i am his bride, but trying to remember patience and being happy to be his fiance!
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oh, and brandi, sorry for not understanding then. i do now.

6 comments:

  1. hey just found your blog. love reading about how crazy it can be :D it's been a long time. i always looked forward to the next age in life too! CONSTANTLY. but i have to say since i got married and had my baby girl... i am the most content and happy with my life than i have ever been. it's THE best.

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  2. Keep in mind that all your stress is one day! I remember being in the hotel with Marc after our reception super tired because of the long day and having to wake up early to catch our plane to Hawaii and thinking "all of that for one day"! It is the best day of your life, but remember that the most important thing of all and the one that will stick with you forever is being sealed to your eternal companion in the most special place ever. Who really cares how fun your reception is, how delicious your cake is, or what your center pieces are, it all comes down to you and Tom being happy. I can't tell you who was at our reception, we sent out 300 invites, but somehow there were more people there. I remember the little mix ups with decorating and food, I remember being upset over thing that now looking at the big picture were very minimal and really, I am just glad that the whole day just meant that I get to spend forever and eternity with my best friend in the whole world! Hope that helps! Love you 79!

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  3. I agree with Melissa 100%! All the head ache and decisions were kind of silly, I remember thinking about it afterwords - was I doing all this party stuff for me or to impress the people we had invited. or my mom ha! Make it yours and how you want it -you will remember it lots of people go to lots of weddings ya know!
    I love you so much and I miss you dearly and I am so beyond happy for you two. You deserve this! Just keep swimming, swimming, swimming!
    Thanks for the fun memories, crazy how long ago that was and where we are all now!

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  4. Brittany! You must be reading my mind, because I feel the exact same way. Except my fiance is in Rexburg :( We can do it!!

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